Posted on 4th Apr 2013 @ 8:07 PM
By Elizabeth Black
Foreplay doesn't have to be a lost art. Remember back in high school when you could make out for hours on the couch or in the car without so much as a finger getting inside either one of you? You were so hot when making out you could have been the first authentic case of spontaneous human combustion! And your partner was so inflamed with passion he or she could have exploded.
Think outside the box - pun intended. Did you know that the largest human organ is the skin? Take advantage of that knowledge and touch yourself and your sweetie's erogenous zones, but do it when you aren't supposed to do it, like give your sweetie a wet kiss in a crowd or place a hand on his or her bum whilst waiting for the tube. Give that cheek a squeeze! Sex is just as much preparation as it is action. You can spend all day working each other up to a frenzy, and you'll reap the benefits later with the most monumental orgasms.
Above all, listen to her. Pay attention to the signals she sends you so you know what she likes and what she doesn't like. Watch her non-verbal cues and follow the direction of her moans. Remember you can't read her mind. Ask her if you're pleasing her. When she likes something, pay attention so you know to keep doing what she enjoys.
Focus on non-erogenous zones - don't immediately go for the genitals. In fact, avoid them and drive her crazy with desire. Leave her begging for more. Pay attention to earlobes, the throat, nipples, the waist, and toes, for starters.
Be a good kisser - Don't slobber all over her like a Saint Bernard, though. Try nibbling on her lips before slipping your tongue in her mouth. Kiss her all over her face and body. Your lips are just as capable of giving pleasure as your hands and willy.
Take your time undressing her - Don't tear off her clothes and dump them in a pile on the floor. Slowly undress her, preferably in time to some romantic or sexy music. Fold her clothes and set them aside, showing her you value her body and personhood. Whilst undressing her, kiss her all over. You'll drive her mad!
Compliment her. Tell her she looks beautiful and her body turns you on. Compliment her nakedness as you remove each article of clothing. Talk about how good she smells and how wonderful she feels as you stroke her arms, belly, and legs. What do you like best about her body? Don't keep it a secret! Tell her!
Start off light and gentle and work your way up to passionate and rough. A light touch goes a long way to turning her on. Run your fingernails softly across her back, eliciting shivers of excitement. Use your lips as well as your hands. Work your way up to more rough treatment. Start by tickling her (gently!) with a feather and end with a stinging swat from a paddle or crop. Pain and pleasure are closely linked.
Vary your technique and location - There is much more to her body than her clit and vagina. Explore her entire body as if you are Columbus exploring the New World! Tease her scalp. Scratch her back. Rub her feet, especially if she spends all day at work standing. Listen to her moans to guide you to what she likes.
Pay attention to the signals he sends you, just as he should do for you. Follow his body language and listen to his moans of pleasure so you know what direction to take.
Look sexy - men are visually oriented. Toss the ratty knickers and buy some sexy lace and satin lingerie. You don't have to feel uncomfortable to look lovely. Find something that suits both of you.
Men love it when you talk dirty. Use naughty language to let him know what a stud he is. Talk dirty by phrasing your statements in the form of questions. Ask him if he's a bad boy who deserves to be spanked. Dirty talk can be lots of fun. Use your imagination.
Be a good kisser. Don't poke at his mouth with your tongue. Don't drown him either. The same tips for kissing a woman apply to kissing a man.
Find alternative erogenous zones - scalp, throat, jaw, earlobes, shoulders, small of back. Don't neglect his nipples! You'll delight in what kind of touch - and where - can turn on a man.
Give a good hand job whilst kissing and fondling. Use lotion or better yet, flavored lubricant to pull and tug at his willy whilst kissing him and fondling him with your free hand. Even better, do this whilst he is fully clothed. He'll be dying to strip but don't let him until he's ready to burst!
Give a good blowjob - There are many ways to please him orally - whip your tongue back and forth across his shaft. Suck only on the tip. Fondle his balls whilst you deep throat him.
When you become a master or mistress of foreplay your sweetie will be at your mercy. Your sex play and especially your orgasms will rock your world. Nothing prepares you for a hot sex session like proper foreplay for a proper amount of time. Don't rush things. Don't give her a slap and tickle and then expect to stick in your wick. Remember - half the joy is in the journey, not only in reaching the destination. Become a foreplay expert and you will never go dissatisfied.